Hello, Alice here. I have simultaneously a lot to say and nothing at all, so here goes.
Neither of us have posted in about two months; sorry. I don’t have an excuse, other than mountains of work and stress, but I’m going to skip the apologies and carry on as normal.
It has been scientifically proven that a good routine has a positive mental effect, so I have decided that I am going to do a post at least once a week on here, and have a set time for me, everyday (I downloaded the app ‘headspace’ and believe it or not, after one use this morning of the most basic, free package, I felt more positive). As you’ll know if you have read some of my last few blogs, I haven’t been doing so great, and I want to change that, so hopefully this will help.. I’ll keep you updated.
I think (hope) that the cause of at least some of my stress and stuff has been from school pressure. This year is the first properly important stage, and there is a lot of work and exams to get through. We have the first lot coming up in the next few weeks, and stupidly, to try to avoid the panic and stress, I have hardly done any work (with ten days to go until my first exam, there are eight subjects for which I have done nothing at all, and two others, one of which I have completed notes, and the other, I have done about half of). Not good. Alice of the present moment is pretty annoyed with Alice of the past few weeks. Anyway, there’s not a lot I can do about hat now, other than work really hard for the remaining days.
On a slightly more serious note, there is actually some stuff that has been helping with my general mental stability that could maybe help someone, if they happen to read this and take my advice:
• Bach (original flower remedies) rescue pastilles – I don’t know, they taste nice and are satisfying to chew, plus the fact that they help me relax and stop stressing, even if it is just for a while.
• Water – as stupid as it sounds, Water Is Really Really Important. Not only is water good for your skin and your body, it makes you more focused, and puts you in a better mindset. I nearly never drink enough water, but can really tell the difference when I do.
• Time for you – take some time, everyday, even if it is just for a couple of minutes, to sit and reflect. Concentrate on the things you never pay attention to: your breathing, how the ground beneath you feels etc. It might sound pointless, but really, a few minutes for you to relax and concentrate on you and you alone will have a positive impact, especially if you do it regularly.
• ‘Scentered’ aromatherapy balm – there are quite a few different scents that do different things. I have only used mine a couple of times, but putting a little onto your wrists and temples and then taking a few deep breaths is great to achieve the desired effect of whichever scent you have. Also, the size is really useful as it will easily fit in a pocket or bag. Examples of what they do are: be happy, de-stress, sleep well and focus, though there are more, also available in different forms to the balm.
• A tidy and well-organised environment – again, another seemingly obvious one, but if you’re looking for a sign to have a sort out, here it is. A tidy space really does equal a tidy mind, or at least offers a welcoming place where you can work or relax. De-cluttering your work environment allows you to focus better on the task in hand, and can lead to a better quality of writing, or more accurate answers.
• Animals – this one is only really for people with their own pets, or access to somewhere you can spend time with animals. Science has told us that the simple act of stroking a dog releases a number of hormones, including serotonin, prolactin and oxytocin, which are all ‘happy’ hormones. This is a great way to be more positive, as your brain is literally releasing the hormones which will help to make you feel good.
• Trusting relationships – perhaps this is another obvious one, though I feel it is somewhat underrated. Having somebody to talk to, whether it be a friend, a family member, a therapist, or even a tiny blog on the internet (though you should always be careful with what you share), is such an important thing. Somewhere or someone who you can confide in, talk things through with, and just have be there for you when you’re in a tough spot is maybe the most important thing to help you change things for the better.
• Be open to change – one of the most common human traits is opposition to change. Nothing would ever happen if nothing ever changed, so trying to embrace new things, rather than pushing them away is crucial. If things aren’t going well, the only way to make them better is to make changes. They don’t have to be huge differences; even drinking enough water has a positive impact, as I explained earlier. This one is difficult, and is something I know I need to work on, but I’m sure that if I stick at it, get into a positive routine and make sure I take care of myself, things will look up.
I set out for this to be a random, apologetic blog post where I perhaps talked about Christmas and holidays, but this post is something I feel strangely proud of, and I am going to try my hardest to improve my outlook, so hopefully my mishmash of tips will help somebody else to become more positive too. Let me know if it does, as it would mean the world.
Thanks for reading; I’d better do some studying